In honor of the celebration of Martin Luther King, Jr. this week, I’d like to honor the fact that he consistently and fearlessly used his voice to speak up for people and causes that mattered to him. He fought for justice and equality, through nonviolent yet radical means. Even if you didn’t agree with his message or his methods, he still spoke out. I admire his tenacity to be heard and make an impact.
I decided that I, too, wanted to speak on some things I believe in. I know that I encounter many people through my social media platforms, and while they may not hear my voice often, they do see me. So, I’m using my visibility to make an impact and encourage integrity, love, friendship and authenticity - principles that I firmly stand on.
Be Kind… even when it’s inconvenient.
This principle goes hand-in-hand with the popular saying, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” It’s easy to be kind to people who are kind to you. But what do you do with those who deserve to feel your wrath due to their unkind actions? That’s when integrity kicks in. In all honesty, it’s the unkind person who needs your kindness the most. Kindness is like a super power that takes the unkind by surprise. They are accustomed to being matched with unkind words and reactions. Don’t be that person. Your kindness can be what changes their perspective on their own ways and how they treat people. Your demeanor, words and actions have so much power. Use that power for good and use it with integrity. Be kind, even when others are not. Don’t let their unkind ways ruin your character. Keep your good karma flowing and your character intact.
Sushi Is Cheaper Than Therapy
When times get hard, sometimes all you need is a good sushi date with your bestie or a loved one to calm your nerves and get your mind right. This works in multiple ways. Making time to just sit down for a meal with a friend gives you a chance to talk about what’s on your mind and it allows your friend the opportunity to do the same. You just never know what he or she has been going through as well. Be each other’s calm in the storm and listening ear when the world is cold and deaf to your cries. I’m not saying therapy is never necessary; I’m saying don’t be afraid to reach out to a friend for a good talk or cry session when you need a shoulder.
Interestingly enough, I’m actually allergic to seafood. So, when one of my best friends and I go to sushi every so often to catch up and chat about life, we only go to sushi places that offer a chicken sushi roll! It’s so good — fried chicken, avocado, rice, seaweed wrapped and dipped in eel sauce. Don’t knock it until you try it!
Be Unapologetic About Who You Are and What You Feel
My hoodie has no words, but it says A WHOLE LOT! Meet Ms. Side Eye. She beautiful, natural, and pierced to perfection. She has a mean side eye, meaning she takes no mess and calls things like she sees them. She is not to be played and not to be fooled with. Don’t let the pretty face fool you; she means business.
Ms. Side Eye is me. Ms. Side Eye is all of the beautiful women who are unafraid to be themselves, express themselves and won’t apologize for doing either. Continue to be bold, be beautiful, and be authentically and unapologetically you.
When you pass someone on the street, glance at someone in a store or someone new starts following you on social media, you may never say one audible word to them. However, your attire can speak for you. I encourage you to speak however you can about whatever it is you care about. Say what you feel. Share your thoughts. Wear your messages. Be heard.
Styled and Shot by Star Campbell, Personal Stylist